Emotional abuse often referred to as invincible wounding, can be said to be the systematic use of non-physical malignant manipulative tactics against another individual. The perpetrator typically aims to exert absolute power and control over the actions, behaviour, mind and will of his or her victim.
Emotional abuse is sneaky and very difficult to discern and prove because, while violence is taking place, physical marks or scars are absent. The only cue is the feeling of something not being quite right; However, the victim can’t quite figure out what it is.
Contrary to popular belief, victims are not chosen for their weakness and vulnerability, but for the various strengths they possess. Perpetrators manipulatively cause their victims to lose sight and awareness of their powers. They achieve this by brainwashing their victims into having a distorted sense of self and a blurred sense of identity.
Victims are unable to exist as a separate entity but as an enmeshed part of the perpetrator, which makes it easy to use the victim’s strengths to their advantage fraudulently.
It is worth noting that no one, irrespective of age or status is immune to psychological abuse.
Forms Of Abuse
Emotional abuse can take the kind of any act including Intimidation, dehumanization, humiliation, belittling, isolation, verbal assault, lying, mocking, swearing, shaming, infantilization, demonization, excessive and destructive criticism, denial, blame, minimizing the abuse or any other treatment which may demoralize an individual.
Psychological abuse, even though without scares, can be as destructive as physical abuse because, it destroys a person’s identity, sense of self and individuality. It chips away at the self-esteem, self-worth and independence of the victim.
Depending on duration and severity, if there is no timely intervention, victims often lose the will to live and in most cases, lose their mind.
How Can I Tell I’m In An Abusive Relationship
Here are a few indicators
- You are consistently walking on eggshells
- You feel stifled.
- You feel you can’t do anything right no matter hard, you tried.
- You are often afraid of what might be said or done to you.
- You do everything or avoiding certain things to make their partner happy but are consistently facing criticism.
- You sometimes feel you deserve to be hurt by your partner.
- You doubt the reality and your account of the incident.
Being aware and not living in denial is the first step breaking the cycle of abuse.