Guilt trips are a form of emotional or psychological manipulation. It is comparable to other indirect methods of communication which can be verbal or silent and can take forms like sarcasm or silent treatment.
It is adopted by an inducer to communicate displeasure over a subject matter with the underlying hope that the target will change their behaviour and bend towards the will of the inducer.
It encourages cold feelings to occur without the issue being openly addressed.
Guilt Trips as a Means of Exploitation
Guilt-tripping is a means by which a person relinquishes control of their well-being unto another individual (usually a caretaker) this often happens in intimate relationships where one is emotionally and psychologically invested.
Empaths are usually vulnerable to this form of manipulation because their caring and affectionate nature open them up to exploitation by the invocation of their conscience.
If you did not have a strong feeling of love, affection and a level of responsibility for the inducer, it probably wouldn’t work.
Being a means of establishing control over another person’s behaviour and securing a predictable outcome, by making the receiver feel ashamed or embarrassed about their actions, they can be groomed to become a people pleaser.
In other words, you can be primed to become a people pleaser by frequent exposure to guilt-tripping.
Guilt Tripping Creates More Problems Than it Solves
Guilt-tripping creates severe problems in relationships where this form of communication is prevalent; because nobody enjoys the feeling of guilt and shame about their behaviour.
The rewards of guilt-tripping are usually short-lived because it induces strong feelings of guilt and ultimately resentment towards to inducer.
The motivation behind guilt-tripping is the fear of alienation or rejection from loved ones, but this happens to be a self-fulling prophesy because they bring to life that which they fear the most. Alienation!
How To Handle Guilt Trippers
Help them understand that even though you end up conforming to their wishes, you feel resentful.
Encourage them to express their needs or wishes in an open and healthy way.
You might begin to consider establishing boundaries by insisting on conforming to wishes that are openly expressed.
Consider creating emotional boundaries.