Vulnerability is a state of being exposed to the possibility of being attacked or harmed, either physically or emotionally.
Humans are naturally averse to negative emotions or occurrences because this is true; we tend to take active steps to prevent them from happening. We become hyper-vigilant and put up shields of physical or emotional protection to limit our exposure to negative experiences, emotions and occurrences. We do not want to be vulnerable.
But pain, hurt, loss and disappointments are a part of life and are unpredictable just as life and death are.
It is incredible to see how we try so much to avoid being vulnerable without realising the fact that we are consistently living in a state of vulnerability. Being vulnerable is an inevitable part of our social lives and intimate relationships.
For example, asking a friend for help, apologising and taking responsibility for something that went wrong, even actions we fail to take sometimes put us in vulnerable positions.
Connection and Vulnerability
We were made to love and connect, and there is an innate longing for a relationship. This longing cannot be replaced or satisfied by inanimate objects or material things.
A lot of people have everything money can buy yet remain unhappy. The reason for this might not be far from the absence of an invaluable connection with another human being.
But how can we satisfy this innate longing without trust for the individual we desire a connection with, and how can we trust this person withing, allowing ourselves to be vulnerable with them?
Trust and Vulnerability
Trust and vulnerability are intertwined; they work hand in hand. We can not claim to trust a person or desire a meaningful relationship with them without allowing ourselves to be vulnerable to the same people.
Trust is key to accomplishing fulfilling and through relationships. Trust lubricates relationships and eliminates friction. Unfortunately, it is impossible to achieve trust without vulnerability.
Thriving relationships rely on trust. Without trust, there is no relationship at all.
The Absence of Vulnerability
- Affects the quality of our relationships and eventually stalls it.
- Also affects the quality of our giving and service to others.
- Makes us hypersensitive to real or perceived hurt or danger
- Causes us to act irrationally and some time with explosive bursts of rage.
- Robs us of potentially fulfilling relationships.
- Stalls transparency in relationships. without
It is imperative for individuals to conduct themselves in ways and manner that foster trust in relationships as this will encourage the parties involved to lower their guard and feel comfortable with being vulnerable.